Dear Jadja,
My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years. I know he loves me but I am afraid he loves his mother more. You can almost say my husband is a “Mama’s Boy”. He is always running errands for her or fixing things at her house. Recently he has started having his dinner there instead of with me and the children. I have confronted him about this several times and he does not see it as a problem. I tried to be patient and loving to him, but now every time we want to go out he brings his mom along. Once even on our 14th wedding anniversary his mom came along to dinner. I am surprised his mom is not sleeping in the same bed we are. My husband claims that his mom is lonely and he wants to make her last days as fun and happy and comfortable as possible. She is 58 years old and strong as a horse. I don’t see her last days coming any time soon. The other day I lost my patience. I asked him if I and his mother were both drowning, who would he save. He said his mom because he owes her his life. I am really upset about this.
What should I do?
Cathy Ann

Dear Cathy Ann,
Learn to swim.