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Things Our Mother Taught Us
My Mother taught me Logic
“Because I said so! That’s why!”
This has been a public service announcement from WRYL
The Voice of the Great Up North
The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B Miesner
Happiness is just sadness that hasn’t happened yet.
WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North
Dear Shirley,
I’m at my absolute wit’s end, and I fear my thoroughly modern kitchen will soon be the scene of a rather un-modern meltdown. My husband’s parents, bless their cotton socks, have decided that our humble abode is merely an extension of their own, and my life, a delightful little play in which they are the uncredited directors.
My mother-in-law, “Agnes,” is a veritable whirlwind of unsolicited advice. She critiques my perfectly adequate casserole dishes, suggests I “dust more thoroughly” (as if I were a mere slip of a girl who just learned to keep house!), and has even dared to rearrange my linen closet, claiming my towels were not “folded with proper respect.” And don’t even get me started on her “helpful” tips for raising our children – apparently, a good smack on the bottom is still the cure-all for everything from a scraped knee to a less-than-perfect report card.
Then there’s Father-in-law, “Clarence,” who insists on “stopping by” unannounced almost daily to “check on things.” He’ll march right into the garage to inspect my husband’s tools, offer booming opinions on our lawn care, and once, he even timed how long it took me to get dinner on the table. My husband, bless his dear heart, just chuckles and says, “That’s just Ma and Pa!” I love him, Abby, but I feel like I’m living in a fishbowl, constantly under the judgmental gaze of the ” elders.”
How can I politely, yet firmly, tell them to mind their own beeswax without causing a family ruckus that would surely be the talk of the Ladies’ Aid Society for weeks? I’m afraid I’ll lose my perfectly groomed temper!
Sincerely,
A Modern Homemaker on the Brink
Dear Modern Homemaker,
My, my, it sounds as if you’ve got yourself a classic case of what we call “over-cultivated family gardens.” Agnes and Clarence, it seems, believe your life is just another plot that requires their expert pruning and fertilizing, whether you asked for it or not!
Let’s address this delicate situation before you find yourself serving burnt toast and a side of bitter resentment at Sunday dinner.
The Gentle Art of Drawing Lines
First, your dear husband. While his “that’s just Ma and Pa!” attitude is sweet, it’s about as helpful as a screen door on a submarine. Have a quiet word with him, perhaps over a perfectly brewed cup of coffee (made to your specifications, of course). Explain, gently but firmly, that while you adore his parents, a little less “help” would go a long way in preserving your sanity – and your marriage. He needs to understand that a united front is essential, even if it feels a tad disloyal. Remind him that a happy wife makes for a happy life, and frankly, a less critiqued casserole.
Now, for Agnes and Clarence. This requires the finesse of a debutante at a tea party, combined with the quiet determination of a well-behaved housewife who knows her own mind.
- For Agnes, the Domestic Dictator: When she offers a critique on your spotless home, a cheerful yet dismissive, “Oh, Agnes, isn’t that just darling? I find this way works perfectly for our family,” should do the trick. If she starts rearranging your towels again, a polite, “Oh, please don’t trouble yourself, Agnes. I just tidied those!” delivered with a firm hand on the linen closet door, should send the message. Remember, a smile can hide a multitude of internal eye-rolls.
- For Clarence, the Unannounced Inspector: When he pops over uninvited, greet him at the door with a beaming smile and a slight hint of business. “Clarence, how lovely to see you! We were just in the middle of [insert any legitimate (or semi-legitimate) activity here – ‘polishing the silver,’ ‘sorting stamps,’ ‘balancing the checkbook’]. Do come in for a moment, but we’ll have to get back to it shortly.” Make it clear that while you are hospitable, your schedule dictates the visit. And perhaps “forget” to hear the doorbell once or twice. Accidents do happen, you know.
The Power of a Unified Front
The key, my dear, is consistency and a subtle, unyielding refusal to engage in debates. You are not asking for permission; you are politely stating facts about your home and your life. They may huff, they may puff, they may even try to garner sympathy from the bridge club, but eventually, they will learn that their unsolicited advice is bouncing off a perfectly polished, polite, but impenetrable shield.
Remember, a little distance often makes the heart grow fonder, especially when that distance involves a respectful understanding of personal boundaries. Now, go forth, reclaim your linen closet, and enjoy your perfectly adequate casserole. You’ve earned it!
Warmly (and with a wink),
Shirley
The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B Miesner
The problem with reality is the lack of background music.
WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North
Dearest Shirley,
I’m writing to you today with a pickle that’s more sour than a lemon in a lime factory. I’m a strapping young lad of 25, and I’ve fallen head over heels for a woman, let’s call her “Doris,” who’s, shall we say, enjoying her golden years at a vivacious 60. She’s smart, funny, beautiful, and makes a mean hot dish. We’re madly in love, and our private life is, well, blissful.
The problem, Abby, is the public life. Every time Doris suggests we go out – to a restaurant, a movie, even just a walk in the park – my stomach does more flips than a professional gymnast. I start spouting excuses faster than a politician before an election: “Oh, my car’s making a funny noise,” “I suddenly have to reorganize my sock drawer,” “My pet rock needs emotional support.” You name it, I’ve used it.
I’m terrified people will stare. I’m convinced my friends will point and whisper, “Look, there’s, let’s call me Henry, dating his grandma!” I know it’s irrational, and Doris is amazing, but the thought of those judging eyes just paralyzes me. I’m worried she’s going to get fed up with my hermit-like tendencies and ditch me for someone who isn’t afraid of daylight. How can I get over this ridiculous embarrassment and proudly show off the incredible woman I love?
Sincerely,
Closeted Casanova
Dear Closeted Casanova,
Oh, honey, you’ve got it bad, but not in the way you think! Your heart is singing, but your brain is stuck in a middle school cafeteria. Let’s unpack this fear of yours, shall we?
First off, congratulations on finding love! It sounds like you and Doris have something truly special, and that’s worth more than all the whispered gossip in the world. Now, about those whispers…
Here’s a dose of reality: Most people are too wrapped up in their own lives (and their own embarrassments, believe me) to care all that much about your age-gap romance. And the ones who do stare or whisper? Bless their cotton socks, they’re probably just jealous! Jealous that you’ve found genuine happiness, jealous that Doris is still so vibrant, or maybe just jealous they didn’t think of reorganizing their sock drawer.
Your friends? If they’re truly your friends, they’ll be happy for you. Anyone who mocks you for loving someone wonderful, regardless of age, isn’t much of a friend anyway. You’re 25, not 15. It’s time to realize that your worth isn’t determined by the approval of a few snickering acquaintances.
Here’s your prescription for public confidence:
- Take baby steps: Start small. Instead of a fancy restaurant, try a quiet coffee shop or a walk in a less crowded park. Get comfortable being seen together in low-pressure situations.
- Own it! When you’re out, hold Doris’s hand, put your arm around her. Act like she’s the most wonderful woman in the world (because she is!). Your confidence will be contagious and will signal to others that your relationship is nothing to gawk at.
- Practice your comeback lines: If someone does make a rude comment (unlikely, but hey, be prepared!), have a few witty retorts ready. Something like, “Love doesn’t have an expiration date!” or “She’s got more life in her little finger than most people have in their whole bodies!”
- Focus on Doris: When you’re out, instead of scanning for judging eyes, focus on her. Look at her, listen to her, enjoy her company. When your attention is on the person you love, the rest of the world fades away.
- Talk to Doris: She knows you love her, but she’s probably feeling a little confused, maybe even hurt, by your constant excuses. Be honest with her about your fears. A supportive partner can do wonders for your confidence.
Closeted Casanova, life is too short to hide the love you’ve found. Doris deserves to be shown off, and you deserve to enjoy her company wherever you please. So, dust off your going-out shoes, take Doris by the hand, and stride out into the world. You’ll be surprised how quickly those imaginary stares disappear when you realize the only opinion that truly matters is your own (and Doris’s, of course!).
Go forth and be fabulous!
Warmly,
Shirley
Things Our Mother Taught Us
My Mother taught me about Time Travel
“If you don’t straighten up,
I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”
This has been a public service announcement from WRYL
The Voice of the Great Up North
The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B Miesner
The road to success is paved with good intentions…
and a whole lot of caffeine.
WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North
Dear Shirley,
I’m a teenage guy named Edwin, and I’m writing to you because I’m really confused about girls, especially when it comes to knowing if they want to be kissed. There’s this girl I really like, and I feel like we have a good connection, but I’m terrified of making a move and getting it wrong.
How do you even know if a girl wants you to kiss her? Is there something specific she says or does that’s a signal? I’ve heard about “body language,” but I don’t really know what to look for. I’m so scared of trying to kiss her and having her push me away, or worse, laugh at me and make fun of me to her friends. That would be completely mortifying.
Also, how can I tell if a girl really likes me, beyond just being friendly? Sometimes I think a girl is into me, but then she acts the same way with all her other guy friends, and I get confused. I don’t want to misread things and end up embarrassing myself.
Any advice you can give would be a huge help. I just want to understand things better so I don’t mess up.
Sincerely,
Confused Edwin
Dear Confused Edwin,
Thank you for your honest letter. It takes courage to ask these kinds of questions, and you’re certainly not alone in feeling confused about reading signals. It’s a tricky area, especially in the teenage years, but there are definitely ways to navigate it with more confidence.
First, let’s talk about knowing if a girl wants to be kissed. You’re right, body language is a big part of it, but it’s not always a flashing neon sign. Here are some things to look for, and remember, it’s often a combination of these, not just one:
- Proximity and Personal Space: Is she leaning in when you talk? Does she find excuses to be physically close, like brushing your arm or letting your shoulders touch? If she’s consistently closing the physical gap between you, that’s a good sign she’s comfortable and possibly interested.
- Eye Contact: Does she hold your gaze for more than a quick glance? Does she look at your lips when you’re talking, then back to your eyes? Prolonged, intense eye contact can be a strong indicator of interest.
- Touch: Does she initiate light, casual touches, like touching your arm when she laughs, or playfully nudging you? Pay attention to how she reacts if you lightly touch her arm or hand – does she pull away, or does she reciprocate or linger?
- Mirroring: People often unconsciously mirror the body language of someone they’re attracted to. If you lean in, does she? If you smile, does she smile back genuinely?
- Lingering Goodbyes: Does she prolong goodbyes, finding reasons to stay and talk a little longer, or seem reluctant to leave?
- Verbal Cues: Sometimes, it’s not just what she says, but how she says it. Does she compliment you? Does she ask personal questions about your feelings or your life? Does she hint at wanting to spend more time alone with you?
Now, for the big one: the kiss. Even with all these signals, there’s no 100% guarantee. The best approach is to create an opportunity for a kiss, rather than just going for it out of the blue. When you’re in a moment that feels right – maybe you’re alone, you’ve had a good conversation, and you’re feeling those positive signals – you can try:
- Leaning In Slowly: Lean in slightly, making eye contact. Give her a chance to lean in too, or to pull back. If she leans in, that’s a very strong signal.
- Looking at Her Lips: Briefly shift your gaze from her eyes to her lips, then back to her eyes. This is a subtle way to communicate your intention without saying a word. If she mirrors this, or her eyes linger on your lips, you’re likely in the clear.
- Asking (If You’re Still Unsure): While it might feel less romantic, sometimes direct communication is the kindest and clearest. A soft “Can I kiss you?” or “I’d really like to kiss you right now” can remove all doubt. If she says yes, great! If she says no, or hesitates, you’ve avoided an awkward situation, and you’ve shown respect for her boundaries. Her reaction will tell you a lot.
As for telling if a girl really likes you beyond just being friendly, here are some additional signs:
- Prioritizing You: Does she make time for you, even when she’s busy? Does she suggest spending time together one-on-one, rather than always in a group?
- Deep Conversations: Does she share personal thoughts, feelings, or vulnerabilities with you? Does she listen intently when you share yours?
- Remembering Details: Does she remember things you’ve told her, even small details, and bring them up later? This shows she’s truly listening and cares about what you say.
- Exclusivity (Subtle): While she might be friendly with other guys, does she treat you differently? Does she seem more engaged with you, or seek you out specifically in a group setting?
- Nervousness/Blushing: Sometimes, a girl who likes you might get a little shy or blush around you, especially if you compliment her or pay her special attention.
Edwin, the fear of rejection is completely normal. Everyone experiences it. But remember, a respectful approach, where you pay attention to her signals and give her space to respond, is always the best way. If a girl pushes you away or laughs, it says more about her immaturity than it does about you. You’re showing maturity by wanting to understand and respect her.
Keep being yourself, be genuine, and pay attention. You’ll get the hang of it.
Warmly,
Shirley
