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The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B Miesner

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WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North

Dear Shirley,
I’m a teenage guy named Edwin, and I’m writing to you because I’m really confused about girls, especially when it comes to knowing if they want to be kissed. There’s this girl I really like, and I feel like we have a good connection, but I’m terrified of making a move and getting it wrong.

How do you even know if a girl wants you to kiss her? Is there something specific she says or does that’s a signal? I’ve heard about “body language,” but I don’t really know what to look for. I’m so scared of trying to kiss her and having her push me away, or worse, laugh at me and make fun of me to her friends. That would be completely mortifying.

Also, how can I tell if a girl really likes me, beyond just being friendly? Sometimes I think a girl is into me, but then she acts the same way with all her other guy friends, and I get confused. I don’t want to misread things and end up embarrassing myself.

Any advice you can give would be a huge help. I just want to understand things better so I don’t mess up.

Sincerely,
Confused Edwin

Dear Confused Edwin,
Thank you for your honest letter. It takes courage to ask these kinds of questions, and you’re certainly not alone in feeling confused about reading signals. It’s a tricky area, especially in the teenage years, but there are definitely ways to navigate it with more confidence.

First, let’s talk about knowing if a girl wants to be kissed. You’re right, body language is a big part of it, but it’s not always a flashing neon sign. Here are some things to look for, and remember, it’s often a combination of these, not just one:

• Proximity and Personal Space: Is she leaning in when you talk? Does she find excuses to be physically close, like brushing your arm or letting your shoulders touch? If she’s consistently closing the physical gap between you, that’s a good sign she’s comfortable and possibly interested.
• Eye Contact: Does she hold your gaze for more than a quick glance? Does she look at your lips when you’re talking, then back to your eyes? Prolonged, intense eye contact can be a strong indicator of interest.
• Touch: Does she initiate light, casual touches, like touching your arm when she laughs, or playfully nudging you? Pay attention to how she reacts if you lightly touch her arm or hand – does she pull away, or does she reciprocate or linger?
• Mirroring: People often unconsciously mirror the body language of someone they’re attracted to. If you lean in, does she? If you smile, does she smile back genuinely?
• Lingering Goodbyes: Does she prolong goodbyes, finding reasons to stay and talk a little longer, or seem reluctant to leave?
• Verbal Cues: Sometimes, it’s not just what she says, but how she says it. Does she compliment you? Does she ask personal questions about your feelings or your life? Does she hint at wanting to spend more time alone with you?

Now, for the big one: the kiss. Even with all these signals, there’s no 100% guarantee. The best approach is to create an opportunity for a kiss, rather than just going for it out of the blue. When you’re in a moment that feels right – maybe you’re alone, you’ve had a good conversation, and you’re feeling those positive signals – you can try:

• Leaning In Slowly: Lean in slightly, making eye contact. Give her a chance to lean in too, or to pull back. If she leans in, that’s a very strong signal.
• Looking at Her Lips: Briefly shift your gaze from her eyes to her lips, then back to her eyes. This is a subtle way to communicate your intention without saying a word. If she mirrors this, or her eyes linger on your lips, you’re likely in the clear.
• Asking (If You’re Still Unsure): While it might feel less romantic, sometimes direct communication is the kindest and clearest. A soft “Can I kiss you?” or “I’d really like to kiss you right now” can remove all doubt. If she says yes, great! If she says no, or hesitates, you’ve avoided an awkward situation, and you’ve shown respect for her boundaries. Her reaction will tell you a lot.

As for telling if a girl really likes you beyond just being friendly, here are some additional signs:

• Prioritizing You: Does she make time for you, even when she’s busy? Does she suggest spending time together one-on-one, rather than always in a group?
• Deep Conversations: Does she share personal thoughts, feelings, or vulnerabilities with you? Does she listen intently when you share yours?
• Remembering Details: Does she remember things you’ve told her, even small details, and bring them up later? This shows she’s truly listening and cares about what you say.
• Exclusivity (Subtle): While she might be friendly with other guys, does she treat you differently? Does she seem more engaged with you, or seek you out specifically in a group setting?
• Nervousness/Blushing: Sometimes, a girl who likes you might get a little shy or blush around you, especially if you compliment her or pay her special attention.

Edwin, the fear of rejection is completely normal. Everyone experiences it. But remember, a respectful approach, where you pay attention to her signals and give her space to respond, is always the best way. If a girl pushes you away or laughs, it says more about her immaturity than it does about you. You’re showing maturity by wanting to understand and respect her.

Keep being yourself, be genuine, and pay attention. You’ll get the hang of it.

Warmly,
Shirley

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The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B Miesner

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WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North

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Dear Shirley,

I’m a young woman in my early twenties, and I’ve found myself in quite a quandary. There’s a perfectly charming gentleman, Peter, who works at the soda fountain at Kressler’s Drug Store on Main Street. He’s got the nicest smile and always remembers how I like my cherry phosphate. The problem is, I don’t think he sees me as anything more than another customer! I’ve tried everything I can think of. I always wear my prettiest dresses when I go in, and I make sure my hair is just so. I even “accidentally” dropped my glove right in front of him last Tuesday, hoping he’d pick it up and our fingers would brush. He just pointed to it and said, “Ma’am, I believe you dropped this.” It was mortifying! My girlfriends tell me to be more “forward,” but frankly, the thought of directly telling a man my feelings makes me want to faint! Is there a subtle, ladylike way to let a fellow know you’re keen without making a spectacle of yourself? I’m worried if I don’t do something soon, he’ll be swooning over some other gal. 

Sincerely, 
Pining for Peter

Dear Pining for Peter, 

Oh, my dear, your predicament is as common as a poodle skirt at a sock hop! Many a heart has fluttered for a soda jerk with a kind smile. Rest assured, there are indeed ways to tip your hand without resorting to a grand declaration or, heaven forbid, tripping him with your dropped glove! First, let’s refine your “accidental” tactics. Instead of merely dropping something, try making eye contact and holding it just a fraction longer than polite. A warm, lingering gaze can speak volumes. When he’s handing you your phosphate, let your fingers “gently” brush his for a moment longer than necessary. A little spark, even a fleeting one, can ignite curiosity. Second, engage him in conversation beyond the weather. Ask him about his interests – does he follow baseball? Is he looking forward to the new picture show? Show genuine interest in his replies. Men, bless their hearts, do enjoy talking about themselves. And a compliment never goes amiss. Perhaps, “Stanley, you make the best cherry phosphate in the whole city!” Third, and this is where a touch of daring comes in, find a reason to linger or return. “Oh, dear, I seem to have forgotten my purse! I’ll be right back,” or “This phosphate is simply divine, I must try another next week!” Make yourself a pleasant, recurring fixture in his day. Familiarity, combined with your charming presence, can lead to fondness. And finally, my dear, if all else fails and you’ve tried these subtle cues, remember that sometimes a man needs a gentle nudge. You don’t have to declare undying love, but a simple, “Stanley, I always enjoy coming in here, you really brighten my day,” delivered with a genuine smile and that lingering eye contact, might just be the boldest, yet still ladylike, step you need to take. Good luck, Pining for Peter! May your future be as sweet as your favorite phosphate. 

Warmly,
Shirley 

The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B. Miesner

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WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North

The Wit And Wisdom Of Horace B. Miesner

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WRYL – The Voice of the Great Up North